Socially Awkward to self awareness

I always feel amazed and at the same time, feel jealous of how a person can be so open in talking with others for hours without any awkward or silent moment. Ever since i went out from my hometown to a stranger country that i never step on it before, in order to improve and make myself engage and know more people, I always observe people surround me; of they way the speak, the way the communicate with each other, the way they talk, the way they behave, and the way the engage in a conversation. However, whenever i talk with my friends or even new people that i know, i always have this awkward feeling and awkward moment with them.

Based on some article that i gathered, this type of person is categorized under Socially Awkward Person. This is due to Lack of Knowledge and Not Understanding Social Norms. This type of people often find difficulties in picking up some topic of conversation with others, what to talk about and when, or what is it suited a joke and what it is not. This will obviously will lead to either weird or shy behaviour.

i always feel amazed with Caucasians people, particularly in Australia (As it is the only country that i went other than States or Europe). They can easily break the ice and create an immediate conversation with you. Many of them, they will always greet you with, "Hi there, How are you today?" or "Hi, How's it going?". as simple as just that casual talk, it can create a topic within two individuals.

People do suggest me to start reading more books, particularly in Positive Attitude and Self Development books. However, beyond this basic principles, everything else can only be learn through experience. that's why for myself, i always try to mix with people who are socially savvy, and learn from them indirectly. Make new friends, meet new people, make new conversation, experiment. Apart from friendship, i believe there's always some positive thing to pick up from them, and developing your social confidence.

with this, Self-Awareness plays apart. They say the first step is to admitting you have a problem, and that is the truth in every aspects of life, as simple as that. Self-awareness is about understanding your own needs, desires, failings, habits, and everything else that makes you tick. The more you know about yourself, the better you are at adapting life changes that suit your needs.

Essentially, by paying more attention to your own emotions and how you work, the better you will understand why you do the things you do. The more you know about your own habits, the easier it is to improve on those habits.

It is always easier to create negative conversation with your friends in order to talk more and longer. However, you have the choice to join in with the negative around them, or you can change to topic to a positive one. For example; instead of gossiping about your fellow friends or colleagues, why not share with them about their Good side of them and create a meaningful conversations about the people. By creating positive talk with others, subconsciously, it will also encourage the people around you to do the same. 

And always remember, A good friends will not talk about their bad things behind their back.

Apart from gossip, we have to realized that we have our own problem as well. By sharing your own problem or your own happiness to the close one, you created one topic that people may aware and care more about you or even will join your happiness in the future, indirectly.

to conclude this, not many people have self-awareness in themselves, however, if you have open and trusting close friends with you, you can ask them for feedback about your personality, habits, needs, emotions, strength, weakness and values. Although they will not give you an accurate assessment, at least they play apart to build your own-self, and help you to be you. With this, by knowing your own values, who you are, and a vision of a person you want to become, you create self-development. And with this, you will motivate yourself more and manage your stress better, helps you with your intuitive decision making, and help you to lead and motivates others indirectly. Self-awareness is very useful.

IQ? EQ?

I was reading several article about the IQ and EQ and decided to re-post those article here.

Different between IQ and EQ?

IQ, also known as Intelligence Quotient, is a score or number derived from a standardized intelligence test. IQ scored are used as predictors of educational achievement, job performance, special needs, or even income. and 95% of the populations scores an IQ between 70 - 130.

EQ is a measure of a person's level of emotional intelligence. This refers to a person's ability to perceive, control, evaluate, and express emotions. Studies have shown that high EQ people have greater mental health, exemplary job performance, and more potent leadership skills.

As an individuals, our success and the success of the profession today depend on our ability to read other people's signals and react appropriately to them. Personally, i believe EQ is more important compared to IQ, although people with IQ is still recognized as an important element of success, particularly when it comes to academic achievement. "Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them," says Howard Gardner, the influential Harvard theorist. Therefore, we must develop the mature Emotional Intelligence skills required to better understand, empathize and negotiate with other people - particularly as the economy has become more global.

i remember i did an IQ test back in my school day when i was around 15-16 years old. i can't exactly remember what is the score of my IQ test back then, but however, the scores predicted that i'm suitable for Civil Engineering.

However, i just did Emotional Intelligence Online Test, which presents a mix of self-report and situational questions related to various aspects of emotional intelligence. My results indicate an above average score on emotional intelligence. According to the result shown, people with a better than average score on Emotional Intelligence tend to be good at interpreting, understanding, and acting upon emotions. They are usually quite good at dealing with social or emotional conflicts, expressing their feelings, and dealing with emotional situations.

Salovey and Mayer proposed a model that identified four different factors of emotional intelligence:

1. Perceiving Emotions - the ability to detect, perceive and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, body language, and cultural artifacts.
2. Using Emotions - the ability to think and cognitive activity, such as; solving problems. Emotions help prioritize what we pay attention and react to; we respond emotionally to things that garner our attention.
3. Understanding Emotions - the emotions that we perceive can carry a wide variety of meanings. if someone is expressing angry emotions, the observer must interpret the cause of their anger and what it might mean. For example, if your boss is acting angry, it might mean that he is dissatisfied with your work; or it could be because he got a speeding ticket on his way to office, or that he's been fighting with his wife.
4. Managing Emotions - the ability to manage emotions effectively, responding appropriately, both in ourselves and in others. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals.

According to Akers and Porter, This 5 major categories of emotional intelligence skills are equally important:

1. Self-awareness - the ability to recognize your own emotions and their effects, and sureness about your self-worth and capabilities.
2. Self-regulation - the ability to control your self-experience emotions, such as anger, anxiety or even depression. this involves self-control, trustworthiness, conscientiousness (Taking responsibility for your own performance), adaptability, and innovation.
3. Motivation - to motivate yourself for any achievement requires clear goals and a positive attitude. Motivation is made up of; Achievement drive, commitment, initiative, and optimism.
4. Empathy - the ability to recognize how people feel is more important to success in your life career. An Empathetic person excels at: Service orientation (anticipating, recognizing and meeting clients' needs), leveraging diversity, political awareness and understanding others.
5. Social Skills - includes; communication, influence, leadership, problem solving, building bonds, collaboration and cooperation, team player.

However, it's important to remember that no matter how good your score is, there's always room to improve your emotional intelligence. consider areas where you are not as strong and think of ways that you can learn and grow. take stock of your strong points and find ways to continue to develop and apply these skills.

References:
Gardner, H. (1975) "The Shattered Mind", NewYork: Knopf.

Kendra, Cherry "IQ or EQ: Which One Is More Important?". psychology.com

Michael Akers & Grover Porter. (2007). "What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)?". Psychcentral.com

Mayer, J.D., Salovey, P., & Caruso, D. R. (2000) "Models of emotional intelligence". In R. J. Sternberg (Ed.). Handbook of intelligence (pp. 396-420). Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press.

梁静茹 Fish Leong - 会过去的 HUI GUO QU DE

新  的 戒  指  失  了 光    泽   几 年   过  了 呢
xīn de jiè zhi shī le guāng zé   jǐ nián guò le ne
沈   默 着    天   快   暗 了   我 们  该  把   往   事  收   拾  了
shěn mò zhe   tiān kuài àn le   wǒ men gāi bǎ   wǎng shì shōu shi le
再  多  说     也 回  不 去 了
zài duō shuō   yě huí bú qù le
後  来  的   都  没  关   系 了
hòu lái de   dōu méi guān xi le
纵   然  我   想    起 你 的   某  年   某  天     历 历 还  深   刻
zòng rán wǒ   xiǎng qǐ nǐ de   mǒu nián mǒu tiān   lì lì hái shēn kè

分  开  後  有  一 段   日 子   躲  得 远   远   的
fēn kāi hòu yǒu yí duàn rì zi   duǒ dé yuǎn yuǎn de
终    於 我   都  走  完  了     慢  慢  也 懂     当   时  不 懂   的
zhōng yū wǒ   dōu zǒu wán liǎo   màn màn yě dǒng   dāng shí bù dǒng de
此 刻 你   生    疏  的 温  柔
cǐ kè nǐ   shēng shū de wēn róu
触  及 我   结  痂  的 伤    口
chù jí wǒ   jié jiā de shāng kǒu
以 前   多    不 能   原   谅      如 今  都  能     笑   着  说   出  口
yǐ qián duō   bù néng yuán liàng   rú jīn dōu néng   xiào zhe shuō chū kǒu

我 曾   为  你 快   乐   也 曾   为  你 挫  折
wǒ céng wéi nǐ kuài lè   yě céng wéi nǐ cuò zhé
曾   把 你   紧  紧  抱  着    紧  紧  依 赖  着    紧  紧  地 爱 着
céng bǎ nǐ   jǐn jǐn bào zhe   jǐn jǐn yī lài zhe   jǐn jǐn dì ài zhe
离 开  很  不 舍  得   以 为  会  崩   溃  的
lí kāi hěn bù shě dé   yǐ wéi huì bēng kuì de
却  在  最  痛   的 时  刻   最  感  觉  清   澈
què zài zuì tòng de shí kè   zuì gǎn jué qīng chè
什   麽 都 会  过  去 的
shén me dū huì guò qù de
（ 过  去 的 在  过  去 活  着  ）
（ guò qù de zài guò qù huó zhe ）

思 念   偶 尔   参  杂 泪  水     很  快   就  乾   了
sī niàn óu ěr   cān zá lèi shuǐ   hěn kuài jiù qián le
时  间   会    帮   我 负 荷   让   我 的 痛     淡  掉   了 颜  色
shí jiān huì   bāng wǒ fù hè   ràng wǒ de tòng   dàn diào le yán sè
相    遇 在    熟  悉 的 路 口
xiāng yù zài   shú xī de lù kǒu
翻  搅   着    内  心  的 沈   淀
fān jiǎo zhe   nèi xīn de shěn diàn
遗 失  的   那 个 永   远     永   远   还  是    留  在  我 心  间
yí shī de   nà gè yóng yuǎn   yóng yuǎn hái shì   liú zài wǒ xīn jiān

我 们  都  走  了
wǒ men dōu zǒu le
我 们  都  不 一 样   了
wǒ men dōu bù yí yàng le
缘   分  没  有    再  一 次 选   择
yuán fèn méi yǒu   zài yí cì xuǎn zé

Tae Yang - eyes, Nose, Lips

Mianhae mianhae hajima

Nega chorahe jijana

palgan nyepun ipsulo

oso narul jugigo ga

Nanun gwen chana

Maji maguro narul bara bajwo

Amurochi an nandut usojwo

Niga bogo shi pute

Giokal su ige

Naye morisoge ni ogul guril su ige

Nol bonel su om nun naye yokshimi

Jip cha gi de yot nol ga dot go

Hokshi i ron na te me himduron ni

Amu de dap hom nun no

pa bo cho rom we

Norul ji u jimote

non to na bo ryon nunde

Hmmm...

No ye nun ko ip

Nal manjidon ni son-il

Jageun sontop kajida

Yo jon ni nol nukil su ijiman

kojin bulko chorom

Tade roga boril

Uri sarang modu da

Nomu apujiman ijen nol chu ogira burulge

Saranghae saranghae jiman

Nega bujok hesona bwa

Hokshi uyoni rado

Hansuna manirado nol

Bol su isulka

haruga niga buranhejo

Ne modun ge galsurok himihejo

Sajin soge nonun we

He marke utnunde

Uriyege daga onun ibyorul morun che

Nol bonel su om nun naye yokshimi

Jip cha gi de yot nol ga dot go

Hokshi ireon na te me himduron ni

Amu de dap hom nun no

babo chorom we

Norul ji u jimote

non to na bo ryon nunde

No ye nun ko ip

Nal manjidon ni sonil

Jagun sontop kajida

Yo jon ni nol nukil su ijiman

kojin bulko chorom

Tade roga borin

Uri sarang modu da

Nomu apujiman ijen nol chu ogira burulge

Manul barabodon noye kaman nun

Hangiron sumul damun noye ko

Saranghe saranghe nege soksagidon gu ipsuru na

No ye nun ko ip

Nal manjidon ni sonil

Jagun sontop kajida

Yo jon ni nol nukil su ijiman

kojin bulko chorom

Tade roga borin

Uri sarang modu da

Nomu apujiman ijen nol chu ogira burulge

sorry sorry don't be like that,
that makes me more pitiful.
With your pretty red lips
please hurry, kill me and go.
I’m all right.
Look at me one last time
Smile like nothing’s wrong,
so when I miss you I can remember.
So I can draw your face in my mind.

My selfishness that couldn’t let you go
turned into an obsession that imprisoned you.
Were you hurt because of me?
You sit silently.
Why am I a fool, why can’t I forget you.
You’re already gone.

Your eyes, nose, lips
Your touch that used to touch me,
to the ends of your fingertips.
I can still feel you

but like a burnt out flame,
burnt and destroyed
all of our love
it hurts so much, but now I’ll call you a memory.

Love you, loved you
I must have not been enough
Maybe I could see you just once by coincidence.
Everyday I grow restless,
Everything about you is becoming faint.
You smile back in our pictures,
unknowing of our approaching farewell.

My selfishness that couldn’t let you go
turned into an obsession that imprisoned you
Were you hurt because of me?
You sit silently.
Why am I a fool, why can’t I forget you.
You’re already gone.

Your eyes, nose, lips
Your touch that used to touch me,
to the ends of your fingertips.
I can still feel you

but like a burnt out flame,
burnt and destroyed
all of our love
it hurts so much, but now I’ll call you a memory.

Your black eyes that only saw me
Your nose that held the sweetest breath
Your lips that whispered ‘i love you, i love you’..I….

Your eyes, nose, lips
Your touch that used to touch me,
to the ends of your fingertips.
I can still feel you

but like a burnt out flame,
burnt and destroyed
all of our love.
it hurts so much, but now I’ll call you a memory.

Things You Should Know As A Passenger During Your Flight

People always said "Customer is a King", "customer always correct", but let me tell you this, All of that will not happen in airline industry.

Some of us might be a frequent traveler, some of us may be the first timer, but this information might help you understand more about the aircraft and to let you know what is the reason behind all the cabin crew command, from the time you step in the cabin during boarding until end of your flight.

1. FAST BOARDING

ALL transportation need some parking space and it is chargeable. Same with airline, whenever the aircraft park in an airport, it will be charge per minute. The faster the airplane push back, the lesser the Airline company need to pay the airport. Other reason, ALL FAs in the world will only get paid when the aircraft door is close and push back. The faster you board the aircraft, the faster you will get to your destination and the faster the cabin crew get paid.

2, PED (Portable Electronic Devices) OFF BEFORE DOORS ARE CLOSE

In october last year (2013), FAA allows passenger to use their electronic devices during take off and landing. That will only happen in the States, but not in ASIAN Airlines. Nowadays, everyone will own at least 1 mobile phone. some of them will have 2 phones, a tablet and a laptop to travel with them. the reason we are the passenger to switch off the phone before doors are close because for obvious reason, phone call or other transmitting devices might interfere the communication between cockpit and ATC Tower (Air Traffic Control), although this thing has not happen yet, take some precaution will always a better way to play safe.

second reason, There are hundreds of other passenger in the cabin with only 9 to 15 crew in the cabin (depends on airlines standard). FAs have no time to entertain one by one if one taking their own sweet time to switch off their device. They need to be seated and takeoff as soon as possible. It save FA's time to inform all passengers by making Public Announcement. 

3. BAGS STOWED IN THE OVERHEAD COMPARTMENT or UNDER THE SEAT IN FRONT OF YOU

For obvious reason; in case of evacuation especially those who are seated at the emergency row, the passenger seated inside or around you will have difficulties to evacuate if your bags or pillow are all over the floor. worse might be a hazard for all the passenger surround you. That's why FAs will always tell you "you may bring it down after takeoff or after seatbelt signs are switch off.

secondly, in case of emergency evacuation, FAs need a minimum time to evacuate all the passengers. EACH passenger seat in ALL airlines is equipped with lifevest for evacuation purpose. What will happen if you pull your bag instead of lifevest?

4. DIMMING CABIN LIGHT FOR TAKEOFF OR LANDING AT NIGHT

number 1, ALL human need several minutes to adjust our eyes with total darkness. We will see total darkness when the lights is off suddenly. Number 2, most of aircraft accident happens during takeoff and/or landing. This is why, they need to dim or off the cabin light for you to adjust with darkness, in case of emergency evacuation at night, you are able to see during evacuation.

read the research regarding How our eyes adjust to darkness.

5.  LATE/SLOW SERVICE

ALL HUMAN only have 2 hands and FAs need to do hundreds of things in flight starting from takeoff to landing. Each flight only have 9 to 16 FAs (Depends on Airline standard) with hundreds of passengers and thousands of requests (each) during the flight. So please bare with the crew if they serve you slow or late; even toilet can only serve 1 person at a time.

6. TURBULENCE

Captain will always Switch On the Fasten-Seatbelt Sign if there's a turbulence/weather condition. Especially if you hear the Captain says "Cabin Crew Please Be Seated", it's going to be super bumpy. As a passenger, you better DO SO. 

Generally, Turbulence is quite harmless, Clear Air turbulence, however, is another story. Clear Air Turbulence is the most dangerous kind, as it occurs in cloudless skies with perfect visibility-so oncoming turbulence cannot be picked up by weather radar. This gives leaves little to no time for the pilot to warn passengers to return to their seats and buckle up their seatbelt. Most injuries-inflight happened due to clear air turbulence.

The only way of preventing turbulence-related injuries is to keep your seatbelt fastened whenever you are seated. Simple saying, when the FA tells you to be seated with your seatbelt securely fastened, please do so. You can hold your pee for few minutes, aren't you?

7. DIVERSION

Diversion of a flight will DEFINITELY costly to the airline company; refueling, parking, documentation, doctors, police, etc. ALL of that is to ensure your SAFETY. FULL STOP. You don't want to fly with rowdy, intoxicated, loud, or even dangerous passenger right? Same to the cabin crew and their airlines company. They don't want this thing to happen. So please be a 'good kid' onboard. However, In case of medical case, that will be another story, It's Someone's LIFE.

8. MANY OF THE PLANE ARE FILTHY

First, you need to know that the water we pour from the pitcher or the coffee that we make may taste okay, but that doesn't mean it is clean. Water is housed in a special tank on each aircraft and is supposed to be disinfected on a regular basis by maintenance. The truth is however that many airlines outsource this kind of work to companies that are less than reputable. So, Please do not save you $5 just to get a (filthy) free drink. Buy a bottle of water onboard will keeps you dehydrated and healthier.

Second, many many many of the planes are filthy. Notice of the seats, floor, wall, windows. look around and notice how dirty it is. FAs and/or the cleaner usually do a quick cleaning during a fast turnaround but often there is little time to do it. They have no time to clean each seat, the whole flooring carpet, the wall, window, or even the toilets. Always make sure your carry on bags are zipped up and closed, you won't know how dirty the floor/compartment is.

9. ABUSING THE PASSENGER CALL BUTTON

Of cause we will do our best to serve you. By all means press it if you need to. Imagine working a 10-hours shift of non-stop requests accompanied by the noisy "Ding Ding Ding..." constantly ringing in your ears. keep walking in the different air pressure is a very exhausted things to do. Cabin Air Pressure is equivalent to the outside air pressure at 1800-2400m (6000-8000 feet) above sea level. imagine you need to keep walking for 10 hours on top of the mountain. FAs are human too, right?

10. SPECIAL REQUEST

you know yourself better than anybody else. Please make the necessary special request when you book your ticket. Once you're on the plane, it's too late to inform the FAs that you need a low-sugar, gluten free, dairy free, vegetarian meal. ALL Catering company will not operate in the airport building. They need time to prepare, to access the airport premises, to deliver to aircraft, etc. even a chef need time to prepare and cook for you in a restaurant, but please, this is airport.

If you under medications, by all mean please bring your own medications and a letter from your doctor. ALL airport will allows you to bring onboard with valid documentation proof. Most of the FAs have limited knowledge in medication (some know nothing), that's why they always page for doctor in case of medical emergency.

11. HANDING A BAG OF VOMIT/DIRTY NAPPY/BABY POOPS

Just be at the FAs shoes, will you take other people's vomits or baby poops?

12. SAFETY INFORMATION CARD

this card is not just a note to make your seat pocket full of stuffs, it is your life bible to survive in the aircraft. After takeoff, it's only you, FAs and other passengers. Nobody will help you in case of anything that happen onboard other than the FA. so please help the FAs by understanding and know the important of SAFETY.

13. QUESTIONS?

if you have any concerns, do not hesitate to ask/tell the FAs. They will be more than happy to let you know the answer. At the end of the day, it is Their duty to ensure your safety and comfortable at all time during the flight.

So please, just do whatever cabin crew told you. and if you wondering, FAs stand for Flight Attendant.

*All of the above information are for educational purpose. There's no intention of abusing the airlines company/industries. Any resemblance name, people, place, location, products, photos, company, characters, incident, events, trademarks, or even slogan mentioned are purely coincidental. 

Green Smoothie

This Green Smoothie might not look nice but it taste great and healthy. It contains vitamins from Avocado and antioxidants from green tea.

Ingredients:
2 avocado
1/2 tsp green tea powder
1 1/2 tbsp pure honey
1 1/2 tbsp chocolate syrup (or 3 tbsp milo powder)
80ml* cold water

To do it, you can use blender machine to have a soft and smooth avocado, or by hand to crunch it. As I love avocado and I want the texture of the avocado, I'm mashed the avocado in a glass together with the green tea powder.

Once you get the desire texture of the avocado, put the honey together and mix it with water.

Put ice cubes to make it colder. Once done, serve it with chocolate syrup (or milo powder) on top.

*the amount of water is just for guideline to enjoy the taste of my smoothie drink. Please add more water if you want.

Enjoy and stay healthy.
ALex

Hatter Street

I was just visited a newly open desserts shop named Hatter Street. Located just 5 minutes walk from Kovan Mrt station, at Hougang street 21. The small shop with Alice The Wonderland theme gives you a very relax and animated ambiance while enjoying their desserts.

Trying their signature 'Whoa'ffles ice cream and it is more than just a waffle. I personally loves their Pandan ice cream with Gula Melaka waffles (SGD 8.90), which I order an additional 1 scoop of Pandan Ice cream (SGD 2).

Equally comparable, their Homemade Chocolate Ice cream with chocolate sauce waffles gives you a total different taste from the pandan one. Accompany with A&W float drink (SGD 4.50) it gives you a fresh taste after your waffle munch.

Visit their store at;
HATTER STREET
Blk 212 Hougang Street 21 #01-333 (s)530212
Open Tuesday to Sunday (close on Monday)
10am to 10pm.

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Repost: Christabel Yang

Type of Friends You Need To Reject From Your Life

In life, You will Lead Your Own Life. However, the people around you will make all the difference, either it is good or bad. But the problem is, how to choose the right person, how to find the people that can motivate you, support, encourage, help and inspire you. Here are some of the people that you need to ignore them as quick as possible:

1. Backstabber

Often they call this kind of people FRENEMY. They can be you very best friends when you face them, but when you turn away, they lie about you to other. They will go to the TOP with you, but will dumb you to the ground. They dare to gossip about their other friends to you, what makes you think they won't say anything about you to theirs? What to do: DON'T EVER TRUST this kind of people AGAIN. Not even ONCE.

2. Do Not Know How To Be Thankful

When you do something nice to them, they don't even thank you for that. They treat you as if that is your duty and you suppose to do that obviously. People who do not appreciate your sincerity and generosity and take things for granted.

3. The Life "Planner"

He/she forgot to return your call for weeks, doesn't acknowledge your special occasions, always last minutes rescheduling your plan, or even MIA..... why you should care about this kind of people when they don't even respect and care about your special time or your life. You need to and must spend your time with those who really appreciate you as a friend.

4. The Pretender

You plan and buy for him/her gifts during his/her birthday, but when it's your birthday, all you get is "oh, it's your birthday?!... Happy Birthday Darling..."

5. The Facebook Friends

You will not get anything from them other than messages or posts. Shut your computer off, and meet the real people. who knows one of them will be your future best best friends. Your true friend will stand by you when you really need them.

6. The Broke Buddy

in simple Hokkian words they called them "Chau Ka Siao", meaning those who waited for you to pay their bill and never pay you back. Remember, your money is your money, Not their ATM.

7. People Who Don't Invite You To Their Weekend Activities

Whether it is party, drinks, Bars, gathering or just a simple dinner, they never invite you and you find out how fun and enjoy they all without you by seeing their photos on your facebook newsfeed.

8. The Competitors

Whether you buy anything nice or go for nice dinner or holiday, he/she will definitely have a plan ahead and better than you.

9. The Walking Dead

Whatever you ask them, they will say "Don't Know" or "No". stay away from people who do not have any plan for their life, no goals, no motivation, no purpose, no support, and no days and nights. This Walking Dead kind of people won't kill you but they will definitely kill you motivations and your enthusiastic.

WHAT TO DO:

1. Spend your time with those who really appreciate you as a friend.

2. Seek out friends who support you and you'll be a lot happier in all aspects of life.

3. Surround yourself with ambitious plans and big goals.

4. Find friends that might have same taste of music. so you can go drink or party to the same place with them.

5. You need to find the taskmaster that lead the way, make sure everything is done, deadlines are met and goals are reached.
6. TRUST your real friend.

7. People that can lead by example is the best person in life, because they have been through it, been there and done that before. Full of knowledge.

8. Find a friend that will always give you positive constructive feedback, Not Gossip.

Mariah Carey - You're Mine (Eternal) ft. Trey Songz