Yogyakarta Travelogue 2016

Here is the videologue of my 6 days solo trip to Yogyakarta, Central Java, Indonesia.

If you Travel on the Plane, Please Read This

Some passengers are just complain to the flight attendant about their unhappy treatment, not being able to fulfill their request and so on. Remember, the main task for Flight Attendant is to ensure your safety from the time you board the plane until you reach your destination. Don't treat them like your professional maids or personal assistance. 

Have you ever wonder what flight attendant is secretly talking about you? Here are the list that crew won't tell you right in front of your face.

1. I'm not receptionist.

first of all, upon check in your baggage, you will definitely receive your boarding pass. If you know you are separated with your friends or your love ones, PLEASE immediately ask the check-in counter staff to change the seat for you. They know the allocated seats that can help you to solve your problem. it's too late to change seat once on board the aircraft. The crew will not able to help you especially it's a full flight.

2. I'm not your Porter!

it's not that i'm being lazy not to lift your bag to the overhead bin, but if you can bring it all the way to the aircraft, you can lifting it up to the compartment by yourself. PLEASE remember, Flight Attendant Rules AREN'T ALLOWED to lift passenger luggage into the overhead bin for you, though we can "assist" you. and please, if FULL, please close the compartment, don't wait for someone else (Me) to come along and close it for you.

3. Don't tell me all your problem!

Passengers are always coming up to me and dobbing each other. "can you tell him to put his seat up?", "Can you close the compartment for me?" oh please, i'm not your maid nor a teacher to scold the passenger in front of you.

4. Don't poke or grab me!

to be honest, no one like to be poked or grabbed, but even worse on the plane because you're sitting down and we are not, so it's usually in a very personal area. don't tell me you grab and poke a waiter in restaurant if you want a spoon or fork!

5. Do i look like walking stationary to you?

if you're travelling overseas, do yourself a favour and bring a pen for those immigration forms and note book for important message. i have few but please return it to me. don't just keep it after use, you are just none other that polite robber. it's just a pen.

6. Come well-equipped

we have limited stuff onboard the plane. if you travelling with your baby, bring nappies. 

7. It's plan simple.

The lavatory door is not rocket science. Push it. and some passengers thought that the airplane door is toilet. Oh please.

8. Please Pay Attention

if you hear us paging for a doctor, or see us running around with medical kits or oxygen bottles, it's not the right time to ask for a coke or throw your filthy napkins.

9. Mind your child

if you're travelling with your small child and you keep hearing bells and disco lights on your seat, PLEASE see if your child playing with the flight attendant call button. we have a lot of things to do.

10. Can't you wait a moment?

Do you really have to go to the bathroom right now while we're wrestling a 100kilogram food cart down the aisle? we won't take hours just to serve the passenger in each cabin.

11. Does your mother teach you politeness?

When you ask a favour from the crew, please use the word "PLEASE" and end it with "THANK YOU".

12. It's Public place, Keep others in mind.

do not clip your toenails or do any type of personal business under a blanket!

13. Cleanliness please.

it's so obvious that is your dirty tissue, your vomits or even your baby poo poo in the nappies. can't you throw it in the lavatory by yourself? There's no cleaner or housekeeping team in the plane, so please do it by yourself. PLEASE... don't expect me to take your filthy stuff with my bare hands.

14. Please know what is called URGENT.

when the crew order you to keep your bags before take off or landing for twice or trice, PLEASE just do so like IMMEDIATELY. we have to take care of 300 other passengers, not just YOU. and please do not show face to them. they are doing their job. At the end of the day, They are the one who ensure YOUR SAFETY onboard. not YOUR BAGS company.

Orphanage Visit

I just came back from an Orphanage visit in Batam, Indonesia. Me and my other 13 friends visit EL Saddai Abigial Orphanage, which located around 45 minutes drive away from batam city centre. This was my very first visit to el saddai abigail, where some of my friends have been visited them for the 2nd, 3rd, ans 4th times.

After we reached batam ferry terminal, we had our breakfast at Bakmi French Bakery at Ruko komplex Nagoya Hill before we head to Nagoya Hill Shopping centre to buy some necessities for the orphanage and some games for the children there.

After we reached the orphanage, who Mr.Tanggang is the father of the children, i assess the condition of their house. There are 30 children in the orphanage, 4 of them are Mr.Tanggang own daughters and sons, with only 3 bedroom, 1 main hall (for visitors to sit and gather with the children), 1 kitchen and some toilets at the back of the house.

I can say that the conditions of the house is very sad and need extra care and attention. Heard that this el saddai abigail orphanage do not have regular donation to support them, in which one of the reason why my friend choose to visit this orphanage instead.

we sat down and the kids introduced themselves with their name, age, school, grade, and their dreams. It touched me so hard when i'm listening to some of their big dreams. Some of them wish to become a model, TV host, teacher, nurse, soccer player, and some of them have a dream as high as a pilot. They shows us, no matter how small you are, no matter what is your status, it's not wrong to have a big dream, which i definitely support them fully. Wishing them to have a proper educations so they can continue to achieve and a step closer to their dreams.

After introduction, we had lunch together. As we already prepared some mix rice lunchbox for each of the kids and includes 14 of us, which contains sambal kentang (spicy fried potato), ayam goreng (fried chicken), stir fried vegetables, rice, crackers and a banana. This lunch may be just a simple lunch to some people, but to them this may be the most delicious food.

After lunch together, we sing together, play some games with the children, and give each of them some gifts and presents. I personally prepare a simple toblerone chocolate bar for each of them, some of us prepare pencil case with pencils and pens for each of them. On top of that, for this trip, we manage to collect Rp.11,000,000 (approx SGD$1120) for el saddai abigail orphanage. Thanks to all my friends and colleagues who helps. A small token of donation will make a huge different to them, those who need it the most.

I will definitely visit them again someday soon, and hope i can help them more, build them a better living, better education and better life.

27 Things You Should Do Before You Settle Down

Okay, i found this video from facebook and i find it quite interesting and quite related to my life. so i decided to repost it into my blog here.

27 things you should do before you settle down



out of 27, i've done 20 of them. let me explain;

1. Travel with your BFFs
i've done this trip with my BFFs to Bali, Taiwan, Melbourne, Bangkok, and Phuket.

2. Learn  to cook
i learn to cook since i was young with my mom. at least, i'm proudly said that i cook better that some of my girl friends. let's have a own-cook-potluck.

3. Be financially independent
Although i'm not there (financial free) yet, but i can say that i am quite financial independent since 2010 and hope i can achieve somewhere there.

4. Face one of your biggest fears
My friends always encourage me to do bungee jump or skydive. As a height phobia person, riding a roller coaster is quite an achievement for me. so i take this no.4 as Yes.

5. Live Alone
i don't think this as consider Live alone. i've been renting a room by myself since 2009 when i came to Singapore for the first time. but there're some flatmates around. so, is it consider as live alone?

6. Accomplish a goal
i'm not sure this is consider as Goal Accomplished, but i'm Proudly said that i'm graduated from Victoria University Australia and that's the biggest accomplishment during my 3 years study in university. next? let's make a plan.

7. Find your drink of choice
i'm not an alcoholic, but i like to drink ribenna vodka, and pink moscato.

8. Make the first move
i think i have some phobia and fear with it, but at least i've done this before. to someone.

9. Challenge yourself
i'm gonna challenge myself for my upcoming trip to Phuket with my BFFs. doing some water rafting and ATV.

10. Take a road trip
i've done this on my last trip to Melbourne and Gold coast. More to come.

11. Try a nice restaurant by Yourself
uh huh, i only did this with my friends. i should try it by myself, someday.

12. Live somewhere else
i've been staying in different country since 2005 until now. i've been staying in Kuala Lumpur, Shanghai, and now in Singapore. next? i don't know yet. take it as surprise.

13. Learn to drive manual
i learn how to drive manual car since a very young age, but i give up on it as the engine always off whenever my car is stop. so i've decided to depend on Auto car even until now. so, hip hip hooray Auto.

14. Find a new show and watch it all in one weekend
yeah, i've done this to one of my favorite korean drama, Secret Garden 시크릿 가든 by Hyun Bin and Ha Ji-Won.

15. Get fit
i'm trying my best to hit the gym whenever i have off day in between my work. even when i'm on duty overseas, i will go to hotel gym for workout. yeah, let's get fitter.

16. Built something with your hands
i've achieve this during my secondary school around 2000 or 2001. during the final project of so called Crafts Class, i created series of art using clay and was score 90 and above. and i made some for my other classmates, which they scored higher than my own score. But afterall, all was made my me. and i'm proud of myself.

17. Stay up till sunrise
as always. don't mention.

18. See your favorite artist live
concerts that i went to; Armin Van Buuren in Shanghai M2, The Killers, Zedd, David Guetta, Calvin Harris, Hardwell, Rihanna. All thanks to Zoukout Singapore and Formula 1 Grad Prix Singapore. more to come.

19. Make a list of a book to read and read them all
i'm not a book person and i never be a book person. i don't like to read. shame on me. damn it....

20. Learn to fight
let's start a kickboxing class soon.

21. Volunteer
This is something interesting that i should be part of it someday. let's explore.

22. Try a new hobby
i've done this for few time. from photography to travel video now. it's all in my Instagram account @axleorius. and to make it easier, This Link will direct you to my Instagram travel video.



23. Apply for your dream job
yeap, as a flight attendant. and it's been the 3rd year now.

24. Keep a journal
used to, but no more.

25. Have a long conversation with a stranger
i'm quite a socially awkward person even to some of my personal friends. maybe this challenge can build my confident up and be more socially friendly.

26. Do something crazy and spontaneous
not to the extend of walk pass a tattoo shop and make one. But i did this while i'm on duty to Narita, upon arrival to my hotel, i shower, change, and go out straight away for one day travel to Tokyo with only few thousand japanese yen and 1 credit card to depend on for the day.

27. Get to know yourself
Working hard for it now.

Life As A Cabin Crew

Here are some facts about my experience after being a flight attendant for sometimes. i feel that it's quite hilariously true, but you will agree with my if you are one of us.

1. You will never unpack your luggage.
2. You will have at least 10 different Pen from Different Hotel, and at least 1 or 2 will be your favorite.
3. You will only know the time, but you don't know what day of the week is today.
4. You will have at least 3 luggage of your own, not your brother sister parents.
5. Your sleep is more important now.
6. You will go for groceries shopping no matter where you are, and you will bring home different groceries goodies that you can't get in your hometown.
7. You will have a selfie with your uniform, in your hotel room.
8. Your cabin aisle is your Fashion Runway. you will just walk straight and not catching anyone's eye.
9. Standing Party will not bother you as you are so used to and always standing while eating.
10. As a passenger, you will always did brace position whenever captain make an announcement, "Cabin Crew to your take off station."
11. You know how to dress up in 30 minutes.
12. If delay or cancellation flight, We will just as furious as passenger, because Cabin crew will only be paid once doors are closed, push back and take off.
13. You will never use the air sickness bag as an air sickness bag.
14. You refer to cities by airport Codes.
15. Oven burns and galley cuts is a common things.
16. Selfie with the iconic building of each country is a must.
17. You will always check out the inside of any backseat pocket.
18. You smile and greet people in the lift.
19. You locate all the Emergency Exit in the Hotel, Public transport and Shopping mall.
20. You will have at least 1 pen in your bag, even when you out of duty.
21. You roll eye to passenger that do not bring pen while traveling.
22. You apologize for everything even it's not your fault.
23. You tend to help other passengers with their bags while you travelling.
24. You will too used to sleep on the straight seat.
25. Unglam sleep is like "Whatevaaaa...."
26. You will look at the sky and identify the plane while it passing by.
27. Your wardrobe will be an international boutique.
28. You will have a minimum of 10 shoes, including your work shoe.
29. You will never order any food in the restaurant menu that is available on board.
30. You will have at least 20 group chat in your phone.
31. You have mastered the power of Lazy-ing in the bed.
32. You will bring your big suitcase on a one-day layover to get your groceries.

Good Words from Dad

Beautiful letter written by a father to his son. Must send to your children.

Following is a letter to his son from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster cum Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.! This applies to daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear son ,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons.....

1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.

2. I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.

3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. Remember the following as you go through life .....

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what/who you love most.

3.Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4.Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love. BUT give a positive response to the one who has been waiting for.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither  would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether  you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7.You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch .

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

Your Dad ...

Wedding Songs for Wedding Dance

I've reached the age where people around me are getting married, one by one. Until today, i become seasoned wedding attendee everywhere around the world. from Medan, Bali, Jakarta, Singapore, Malaysia, and Sydney. And even i become an emcee at my friend's wedding dinner before.

Realizing many couple pick the current trend songs for their 'Walk down the Aisle', 'Wedding Dance', and some for wedding champagne and reception dinner. However, from the song and the lyrics itself, i feel sometimes a little bit awkward as it doesn't have any meaning, or even some songs aren't wedding appropriate.

Here are the list of the songs that some of the couple had choose and sang by the guests, and i feel it's quite awkward in terms of lyrics;

1. Frozen - Let It Go

one thing is that, this song is a ear-catcher and very popular from children until adult. But then, the moment is not "Let It Go". enough said.

2. Bruno Mars - Marry You

the title may sounds like a modern wedding song, but however, the lyrics is killing. "and if we wake up and you wanna break up that's cool, No i won't blame you, it was fun girl." errr.... excuse me, it's wedding day, not break up period.

3. Taylor Swift - Love Story

it may be a Love story between Romeo and Juliet. but however, "and my daddy said stay away from Juliet, but you were everything to me, and i begging you please don't go and i said. Romeo save me, there're trying to tell me how to feel. This love is Difficult, but it's real. Don't be afraid, we'll make it out of this mess." okay, i feel that this song is a love story that have parental objection. remember, a Wedding should be both party agree for it.

4. Robbie Williams and Nicole Kidman - Something Stupid

i know i stand in line until you think you have the time to spend an evening with me. and if we go someplace to dance, i know there's a chance you won't be leaving with me. and afterwards we drop into a quite little place and have a drink or two. And then i go and spoils it all by saying something stupid like I Love You. From the lyrics itself shows that it's just a song that a guy Love the girl so much. it's romantic journey but it's not a LOVE SONG. 

5. Celine Dion - My Heart Will Go On

remember, this song is for Titanic incident about a woman missing her dead lover. that's why "Love was when i love you, one true time, i hold to. in my life we'll always go on." 

6. Beyonce - Love On Top

This song is a woman that finally got the chance to be with the man she love. Finally doesn't mean you are the one. that might be the Man just broke up with another woman and he has no choice to be with the woman that loves him, as the lyrics said "Nothing's perfect, but it's worth it after fighting through my tears, and finally you put me first."

7. Westlife - All Or Nothing

This song proof that the girl struggle with 2 guys. Either He or Me. "Or are we just friend? is this how it ends with a simple telephone call? you leave me here with nothing at all." ouch....

all those songs above (that i can remember as for now) are totally wrong to me. so i would recommend some real love songs that you should use for your wedding or your future wedding song, which is more wedding-appropriate song to enjoy. sometimes, classic can be catchy as well.

1. Celine Dion - Because You Love Me

"For all those time you stood by me, for every dream you made come true, for all the love i found in you. i'll be forever thankful baby, you're the one who held me up, never let me fall, you're the one who saw me through, through it all. you give me faith cause you believe." is purely love and so romantic.

2. Shania Twain - From This Moment

"you and i will never be apart, my dream came true because of you. from this moment, as long as i live, i will love you and i promise you this." Lyrics speaks all you want and all you need.

3. John Legend - All Of Me

again, nothing wrong with this song. everything is so magical. "Cause all of me, loves all of you. Give your all to me, i'll give my all to you. you're my end and my beginning." 

4. Richard Marx - New And Forever

This song is so deep "i lose my way but still you seems to understand. Now and forever i will be your man."

5. Michael Buble - Everything

there are so many wedding appropriate songs from Michael Buble. But i think, this Everything is the perfect song to me. it's upbeat and great lyrics. "and in this crazy life, and through these crazy times, it's you, you make me sing, you're every line, you're every word, you're everything." i will definitely pick this song as one of my wedding song repertoire. 

6. Train - Marry Me

Enough said, Just watch the video and listen.

7. James Morrison - I Won't Let You Go

"if there's love just feel it, it there's life we'll see it. This is no time to be alone, if your sky is falling, just take my hand and hold it, you don't have to be alone, and i won't let you go." simply what's all woman loves to hear.

8. Sam Smith - Lay Me Down

can i lay by your side? next to you, and make sure you're alright, i'll take care of you..."

hope this will give you some idea in choosing a proper Love song for you wedding. Romantic songs might be a wedding-appropriate. so, choose carefully.

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Socially Awkward to self awareness

I always feel amazed and at the same time, feel jealous of how a person can be so open in talking with others for hours without any awkward or silent moment. Ever since i went out from my hometown to a stranger country that i never step on it before, in order to improve and make myself engage and know more people, I always observe people surround me; of they way the speak, the way the communicate with each other, the way they talk, the way they behave, and the way the engage in a conversation. However, whenever i talk with my friends or even new people that i know, i always have this awkward feeling and awkward moment with them.

Based on some article that i gathered, this type of person is categorized under Socially Awkward Person. This is due to Lack of Knowledge and Not Understanding Social Norms. This type of people often find difficulties in picking up some topic of conversation with others, what to talk about and when, or what is it suited a joke and what it is not. This will obviously will lead to either weird or shy behaviour.

i always feel amazed with Caucasians people, particularly in Australia (As it is the only country that i went other than States or Europe). They can easily break the ice and create an immediate conversation with you. Many of them, they will always greet you with, "Hi there, How are you today?" or "Hi, How's it going?". as simple as just that casual talk, it can create a topic within two individuals.

People do suggest me to start reading more books, particularly in Positive Attitude and Self Development books. However, beyond this basic principles, everything else can only be learn through experience. that's why for myself, i always try to mix with people who are socially savvy, and learn from them indirectly. Make new friends, meet new people, make new conversation, experiment. Apart from friendship, i believe there's always some positive thing to pick up from them, and developing your social confidence.

with this, Self-Awareness plays apart. They say the first step is to admitting you have a problem, and that is the truth in every aspects of life, as simple as that. Self-awareness is about understanding your own needs, desires, failings, habits, and everything else that makes you tick. The more you know about yourself, the better you are at adapting life changes that suit your needs.

Essentially, by paying more attention to your own emotions and how you work, the better you will understand why you do the things you do. The more you know about your own habits, the easier it is to improve on those habits.

It is always easier to create negative conversation with your friends in order to talk more and longer. However, you have the choice to join in with the negative around them, or you can change to topic to a positive one. For example; instead of gossiping about your fellow friends or colleagues, why not share with them about their Good side of them and create a meaningful conversations about the people. By creating positive talk with others, subconsciously, it will also encourage the people around you to do the same. 

And always remember, A good friends will not talk about their bad things behind their back.

Apart from gossip, we have to realized that we have our own problem as well. By sharing your own problem or your own happiness to the close one, you created one topic that people may aware and care more about you or even will join your happiness in the future, indirectly.

to conclude this, not many people have self-awareness in themselves, however, if you have open and trusting close friends with you, you can ask them for feedback about your personality, habits, needs, emotions, strength, weakness and values. Although they will not give you an accurate assessment, at least they play apart to build your own-self, and help you to be you. With this, by knowing your own values, who you are, and a vision of a person you want to become, you create self-development. And with this, you will motivate yourself more and manage your stress better, helps you with your intuitive decision making, and help you to lead and motivates others indirectly. Self-awareness is very useful.

IQ? EQ?

I was reading several article about the IQ and EQ and decided to re-post those article here.

Different between IQ and EQ?

IQ, also known as Intelligence Quotient, is a score or number derived from a standardized intelligence test. IQ scored are used as predictors of educational achievement, job performance, special needs, or even income. and 95% of the populations scores an IQ between 70 - 130.

EQ is a measure of a person's level of emotional intelligence. This refers to a person's ability to perceive, control, evaluate, and express emotions. Studies have shown that high EQ people have greater mental health, exemplary job performance, and more potent leadership skills.

As an individuals, our success and the success of the profession today depend on our ability to read other people's signals and react appropriately to them. Personally, i believe EQ is more important compared to IQ, although people with IQ is still recognized as an important element of success, particularly when it comes to academic achievement. "Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them," says Howard Gardner, the influential Harvard theorist. Therefore, we must develop the mature Emotional Intelligence skills required to better understand, empathize and negotiate with other people - particularly as the economy has become more global.

i remember i did an IQ test back in my school day when i was around 15-16 years old. i can't exactly remember what is the score of my IQ test back then, but however, the scores predicted that i'm suitable for Civil Engineering.

However, i just did Emotional Intelligence Online Test, which presents a mix of self-report and situational questions related to various aspects of emotional intelligence. My results indicate an above average score on emotional intelligence. According to the result shown, people with a better than average score on Emotional Intelligence tend to be good at interpreting, understanding, and acting upon emotions. They are usually quite good at dealing with social or emotional conflicts, expressing their feelings, and dealing with emotional situations.

Salovey and Mayer proposed a model that identified four different factors of emotional intelligence:

1. Perceiving Emotions - the ability to detect, perceive and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, body language, and cultural artifacts.
2. Using Emotions - the ability to think and cognitive activity, such as; solving problems. Emotions help prioritize what we pay attention and react to; we respond emotionally to things that garner our attention.
3. Understanding Emotions - the emotions that we perceive can carry a wide variety of meanings. if someone is expressing angry emotions, the observer must interpret the cause of their anger and what it might mean. For example, if your boss is acting angry, it might mean that he is dissatisfied with your work; or it could be because he got a speeding ticket on his way to office, or that he's been fighting with his wife.
4. Managing Emotions - the ability to manage emotions effectively, responding appropriately, both in ourselves and in others. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals.

According to Akers and Porter, This 5 major categories of emotional intelligence skills are equally important:

1. Self-awareness - the ability to recognize your own emotions and their effects, and sureness about your self-worth and capabilities.
2. Self-regulation - the ability to control your self-experience emotions, such as anger, anxiety or even depression. this involves self-control, trustworthiness, conscientiousness (Taking responsibility for your own performance), adaptability, and innovation.
3. Motivation - to motivate yourself for any achievement requires clear goals and a positive attitude. Motivation is made up of; Achievement drive, commitment, initiative, and optimism.
4. Empathy - the ability to recognize how people feel is more important to success in your life career. An Empathetic person excels at: Service orientation (anticipating, recognizing and meeting clients' needs), leveraging diversity, political awareness and understanding others.
5. Social Skills - includes; communication, influence, leadership, problem solving, building bonds, collaboration and cooperation, team player.

However, it's important to remember that no matter how good your score is, there's always room to improve your emotional intelligence. consider areas where you are not as strong and think of ways that you can learn and grow. take stock of your strong points and find ways to continue to develop and apply these skills.

References:
Gardner, H. (1975) "The Shattered Mind", NewYork: Knopf.

Kendra, Cherry "IQ or EQ: Which One Is More Important?". psychology.com

Michael Akers & Grover Porter. (2007). "What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)?". Psychcentral.com

Mayer, J.D., Salovey, P., & Caruso, D. R. (2000) "Models of emotional intelligence". In R. J. Sternberg (Ed.). Handbook of intelligence (pp. 396-420). Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press.

梁静茹 Fish Leong - 会过去的 HUI GUO QU DE

新  的 戒  指  失  了 光    泽   几 年   过  了 呢
xīn de jiè zhi shī le guāng zé   jǐ nián guò le ne
沈   默 着    天   快   暗 了   我 们  该  把   往   事  收   拾  了
shěn mò zhe   tiān kuài àn le   wǒ men gāi bǎ   wǎng shì shōu shi le
再  多  说     也 回  不 去 了
zài duō shuō   yě huí bú qù le
後  来  的   都  没  关   系 了
hòu lái de   dōu méi guān xi le
纵   然  我   想    起 你 的   某  年   某  天     历 历 还  深   刻
zòng rán wǒ   xiǎng qǐ nǐ de   mǒu nián mǒu tiān   lì lì hái shēn kè

分  开  後  有  一 段   日 子   躲  得 远   远   的
fēn kāi hòu yǒu yí duàn rì zi   duǒ dé yuǎn yuǎn de
终    於 我   都  走  完  了     慢  慢  也 懂     当   时  不 懂   的
zhōng yū wǒ   dōu zǒu wán liǎo   màn màn yě dǒng   dāng shí bù dǒng de
此 刻 你   生    疏  的 温  柔
cǐ kè nǐ   shēng shū de wēn róu
触  及 我   结  痂  的 伤    口
chù jí wǒ   jié jiā de shāng kǒu
以 前   多    不 能   原   谅      如 今  都  能     笑   着  说   出  口
yǐ qián duō   bù néng yuán liàng   rú jīn dōu néng   xiào zhe shuō chū kǒu

我 曾   为  你 快   乐   也 曾   为  你 挫  折
wǒ céng wéi nǐ kuài lè   yě céng wéi nǐ cuò zhé
曾   把 你   紧  紧  抱  着    紧  紧  依 赖  着    紧  紧  地 爱 着
céng bǎ nǐ   jǐn jǐn bào zhe   jǐn jǐn yī lài zhe   jǐn jǐn dì ài zhe
离 开  很  不 舍  得   以 为  会  崩   溃  的
lí kāi hěn bù shě dé   yǐ wéi huì bēng kuì de
却  在  最  痛   的 时  刻   最  感  觉  清   澈
què zài zuì tòng de shí kè   zuì gǎn jué qīng chè
什   麽 都 会  过  去 的
shén me dū huì guò qù de
（ 过  去 的 在  过  去 活  着  ）
（ guò qù de zài guò qù huó zhe ）

思 念   偶 尔   参  杂 泪  水     很  快   就  乾   了
sī niàn óu ěr   cān zá lèi shuǐ   hěn kuài jiù qián le
时  间   会    帮   我 负 荷   让   我 的 痛     淡  掉   了 颜  色
shí jiān huì   bāng wǒ fù hè   ràng wǒ de tòng   dàn diào le yán sè
相    遇 在    熟  悉 的 路 口
xiāng yù zài   shú xī de lù kǒu
翻  搅   着    内  心  的 沈   淀
fān jiǎo zhe   nèi xīn de shěn diàn
遗 失  的   那 个 永   远     永   远   还  是    留  在  我 心  间
yí shī de   nà gè yóng yuǎn   yóng yuǎn hái shì   liú zài wǒ xīn jiān

我 们  都  走  了
wǒ men dōu zǒu le
我 们  都  不 一 样   了
wǒ men dōu bù yí yàng le
缘   分  没  有    再  一 次 选   择
yuán fèn méi yǒu   zài yí cì xuǎn zé

Tae Yang - eyes, Nose, Lips

Mianhae mianhae hajima

Nega chorahe jijana

palgan nyepun ipsulo

oso narul jugigo ga

Nanun gwen chana

Maji maguro narul bara bajwo

Amurochi an nandut usojwo

Niga bogo shi pute

Giokal su ige

Naye morisoge ni ogul guril su ige

Nol bonel su om nun naye yokshimi

Jip cha gi de yot nol ga dot go

Hokshi i ron na te me himduron ni

Amu de dap hom nun no

pa bo cho rom we

Norul ji u jimote

non to na bo ryon nunde

Hmmm...

No ye nun ko ip

Nal manjidon ni son-il

Jageun sontop kajida

Yo jon ni nol nukil su ijiman

kojin bulko chorom

Tade roga boril

Uri sarang modu da

Nomu apujiman ijen nol chu ogira burulge

Saranghae saranghae jiman

Nega bujok hesona bwa

Hokshi uyoni rado

Hansuna manirado nol

Bol su isulka

haruga niga buranhejo

Ne modun ge galsurok himihejo

Sajin soge nonun we

He marke utnunde

Uriyege daga onun ibyorul morun che

Nol bonel su om nun naye yokshimi

Jip cha gi de yot nol ga dot go

Hokshi ireon na te me himduron ni

Amu de dap hom nun no

babo chorom we

Norul ji u jimote

non to na bo ryon nunde

No ye nun ko ip

Nal manjidon ni sonil

Jagun sontop kajida

Yo jon ni nol nukil su ijiman

kojin bulko chorom

Tade roga borin

Uri sarang modu da

Nomu apujiman ijen nol chu ogira burulge

Manul barabodon noye kaman nun

Hangiron sumul damun noye ko

Saranghe saranghe nege soksagidon gu ipsuru na

No ye nun ko ip

Nal manjidon ni sonil

Jagun sontop kajida

Yo jon ni nol nukil su ijiman

kojin bulko chorom

Tade roga borin

Uri sarang modu da

Nomu apujiman ijen nol chu ogira burulge

sorry sorry don't be like that,
that makes me more pitiful.
With your pretty red lips
please hurry, kill me and go.
I’m all right.
Look at me one last time
Smile like nothing’s wrong,
so when I miss you I can remember.
So I can draw your face in my mind.

My selfishness that couldn’t let you go
turned into an obsession that imprisoned you.
Were you hurt because of me?
You sit silently.
Why am I a fool, why can’t I forget you.
You’re already gone.

Your eyes, nose, lips
Your touch that used to touch me,
to the ends of your fingertips.
I can still feel you

but like a burnt out flame,
burnt and destroyed
all of our love
it hurts so much, but now I’ll call you a memory.

Love you, loved you
I must have not been enough
Maybe I could see you just once by coincidence.
Everyday I grow restless,
Everything about you is becoming faint.
You smile back in our pictures,
unknowing of our approaching farewell.

My selfishness that couldn’t let you go
turned into an obsession that imprisoned you
Were you hurt because of me?
You sit silently.
Why am I a fool, why can’t I forget you.
You’re already gone.

Your eyes, nose, lips
Your touch that used to touch me,
to the ends of your fingertips.
I can still feel you

but like a burnt out flame,
burnt and destroyed
all of our love
it hurts so much, but now I’ll call you a memory.

Your black eyes that only saw me
Your nose that held the sweetest breath
Your lips that whispered ‘i love you, i love you’..I….

Your eyes, nose, lips
Your touch that used to touch me,
to the ends of your fingertips.
I can still feel you

but like a burnt out flame,
burnt and destroyed
all of our love.
it hurts so much, but now I’ll call you a memory.

Things You Should Know As A Passenger During Your Flight

People always said "Customer is a King", "customer always correct", but let me tell you this, All of that will not happen in airline industry.

Some of us might be a frequent traveler, some of us may be the first timer, but this information might help you understand more about the aircraft and to let you know what is the reason behind all the cabin crew command, from the time you step in the cabin during boarding until end of your flight.

1. FAST BOARDING

ALL transportation need some parking space and it is chargeable. Same with airline, whenever the aircraft park in an airport, it will be charge per minute. The faster the airplane push back, the lesser the Airline company need to pay the airport. Other reason, ALL FAs in the world will only get paid when the aircraft door is close and push back. The faster you board the aircraft, the faster you will get to your destination and the faster the cabin crew get paid.

2, PED (Portable Electronic Devices) OFF BEFORE DOORS ARE CLOSE

In october last year (2013), FAA allows passenger to use their electronic devices during take off and landing. That will only happen in the States, but not in ASIAN Airlines. Nowadays, everyone will own at least 1 mobile phone. some of them will have 2 phones, a tablet and a laptop to travel with them. the reason we are the passenger to switch off the phone before doors are close because for obvious reason, phone call or other transmitting devices might interfere the communication between cockpit and ATC Tower (Air Traffic Control), although this thing has not happen yet, take some precaution will always a better way to play safe.

second reason, There are hundreds of other passenger in the cabin with only 9 to 15 crew in the cabin (depends on airlines standard). FAs have no time to entertain one by one if one taking their own sweet time to switch off their device. They need to be seated and takeoff as soon as possible. It save FA's time to inform all passengers by making Public Announcement. 

3. BAGS STOWED IN THE OVERHEAD COMPARTMENT or UNDER THE SEAT IN FRONT OF YOU

For obvious reason; in case of evacuation especially those who are seated at the emergency row, the passenger seated inside or around you will have difficulties to evacuate if your bags or pillow are all over the floor. worse might be a hazard for all the passenger surround you. That's why FAs will always tell you "you may bring it down after takeoff or after seatbelt signs are switch off.

secondly, in case of emergency evacuation, FAs need a minimum time to evacuate all the passengers. EACH passenger seat in ALL airlines is equipped with lifevest for evacuation purpose. What will happen if you pull your bag instead of lifevest?

4. DIMMING CABIN LIGHT FOR TAKEOFF OR LANDING AT NIGHT

number 1, ALL human need several minutes to adjust our eyes with total darkness. We will see total darkness when the lights is off suddenly. Number 2, most of aircraft accident happens during takeoff and/or landing. This is why, they need to dim or off the cabin light for you to adjust with darkness, in case of emergency evacuation at night, you are able to see during evacuation.

read the research regarding How our eyes adjust to darkness.

5.  LATE/SLOW SERVICE

ALL HUMAN only have 2 hands and FAs need to do hundreds of things in flight starting from takeoff to landing. Each flight only have 9 to 16 FAs (Depends on Airline standard) with hundreds of passengers and thousands of requests (each) during the flight. So please bare with the crew if they serve you slow or late; even toilet can only serve 1 person at a time.

6. TURBULENCE

Captain will always Switch On the Fasten-Seatbelt Sign if there's a turbulence/weather condition. Especially if you hear the Captain says "Cabin Crew Please Be Seated", it's going to be super bumpy. As a passenger, you better DO SO. 

Generally, Turbulence is quite harmless, Clear Air turbulence, however, is another story. Clear Air Turbulence is the most dangerous kind, as it occurs in cloudless skies with perfect visibility-so oncoming turbulence cannot be picked up by weather radar. This gives leaves little to no time for the pilot to warn passengers to return to their seats and buckle up their seatbelt. Most injuries-inflight happened due to clear air turbulence.

The only way of preventing turbulence-related injuries is to keep your seatbelt fastened whenever you are seated. Simple saying, when the FA tells you to be seated with your seatbelt securely fastened, please do so. You can hold your pee for few minutes, aren't you?

7. DIVERSION

Diversion of a flight will DEFINITELY costly to the airline company; refueling, parking, documentation, doctors, police, etc. ALL of that is to ensure your SAFETY. FULL STOP. You don't want to fly with rowdy, intoxicated, loud, or even dangerous passenger right? Same to the cabin crew and their airlines company. They don't want this thing to happen. So please be a 'good kid' onboard. However, In case of medical case, that will be another story, It's Someone's LIFE.

8. MANY OF THE PLANE ARE FILTHY

First, you need to know that the water we pour from the pitcher or the coffee that we make may taste okay, but that doesn't mean it is clean. Water is housed in a special tank on each aircraft and is supposed to be disinfected on a regular basis by maintenance. The truth is however that many airlines outsource this kind of work to companies that are less than reputable. So, Please do not save you $5 just to get a (filthy) free drink. Buy a bottle of water onboard will keeps you dehydrated and healthier.

Second, many many many of the planes are filthy. Notice of the seats, floor, wall, windows. look around and notice how dirty it is. FAs and/or the cleaner usually do a quick cleaning during a fast turnaround but often there is little time to do it. They have no time to clean each seat, the whole flooring carpet, the wall, window, or even the toilets. Always make sure your carry on bags are zipped up and closed, you won't know how dirty the floor/compartment is.

9. ABUSING THE PASSENGER CALL BUTTON

Of cause we will do our best to serve you. By all means press it if you need to. Imagine working a 10-hours shift of non-stop requests accompanied by the noisy "Ding Ding Ding..." constantly ringing in your ears. keep walking in the different air pressure is a very exhausted things to do. Cabin Air Pressure is equivalent to the outside air pressure at 1800-2400m (6000-8000 feet) above sea level. imagine you need to keep walking for 10 hours on top of the mountain. FAs are human too, right?

10. SPECIAL REQUEST

you know yourself better than anybody else. Please make the necessary special request when you book your ticket. Once you're on the plane, it's too late to inform the FAs that you need a low-sugar, gluten free, dairy free, vegetarian meal. ALL Catering company will not operate in the airport building. They need time to prepare, to access the airport premises, to deliver to aircraft, etc. even a chef need time to prepare and cook for you in a restaurant, but please, this is airport.

If you under medications, by all mean please bring your own medications and a letter from your doctor. ALL airport will allows you to bring onboard with valid documentation proof. Most of the FAs have limited knowledge in medication (some know nothing), that's why they always page for doctor in case of medical emergency.

11. HANDING A BAG OF VOMIT/DIRTY NAPPY/BABY POOPS

Just be at the FAs shoes, will you take other people's vomits or baby poops?

12. SAFETY INFORMATION CARD

this card is not just a note to make your seat pocket full of stuffs, it is your life bible to survive in the aircraft. After takeoff, it's only you, FAs and other passengers. Nobody will help you in case of anything that happen onboard other than the FA. so please help the FAs by understanding and know the important of SAFETY.

13. QUESTIONS?

if you have any concerns, do not hesitate to ask/tell the FAs. They will be more than happy to let you know the answer. At the end of the day, it is Their duty to ensure your safety and comfortable at all time during the flight.

So please, just do whatever cabin crew told you. and if you wondering, FAs stand for Flight Attendant.

*All of the above information are for educational purpose. There's no intention of abusing the airlines company/industries. Any resemblance name, people, place, location, products, photos, company, characters, incident, events, trademarks, or even slogan mentioned are purely coincidental. 

Green Smoothie

This Green Smoothie might not look nice but it taste great and healthy. It contains vitamins from Avocado and antioxidants from green tea.

Ingredients:
2 avocado
1/2 tsp green tea powder
1 1/2 tbsp pure honey
1 1/2 tbsp chocolate syrup (or 3 tbsp milo powder)
80ml* cold water

To do it, you can use blender machine to have a soft and smooth avocado, or by hand to crunch it. As I love avocado and I want the texture of the avocado, I'm mashed the avocado in a glass together with the green tea powder.

Once you get the desire texture of the avocado, put the honey together and mix it with water.

Put ice cubes to make it colder. Once done, serve it with chocolate syrup (or milo powder) on top.

*the amount of water is just for guideline to enjoy the taste of my smoothie drink. Please add more water if you want.

Enjoy and stay healthy.
ALex

Hatter Street

I was just visited a newly open desserts shop named Hatter Street. Located just 5 minutes walk from Kovan Mrt station, at Hougang street 21. The small shop with Alice The Wonderland theme gives you a very relax and animated ambiance while enjoying their desserts.

Trying their signature 'Whoa'ffles ice cream and it is more than just a waffle. I personally loves their Pandan ice cream with Gula Melaka waffles (SGD 8.90), which I order an additional 1 scoop of Pandan Ice cream (SGD 2).

Equally comparable, their Homemade Chocolate Ice cream with chocolate sauce waffles gives you a total different taste from the pandan one. Accompany with A&W float drink (SGD 4.50) it gives you a fresh taste after your waffle munch.

Visit their store at;
HATTER STREET
Blk 212 Hougang Street 21 #01-333 (s)530212
Open Tuesday to Sunday (close on Monday)
10am to 10pm.

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Repost: Christabel Yang

Type of Friends You Need To Reject From Your Life

In life, You will Lead Your Own Life. However, the people around you will make all the difference, either it is good or bad. But the problem is, how to choose the right person, how to find the people that can motivate you, support, encourage, help and inspire you. Here are some of the people that you need to ignore them as quick as possible:

1. Backstabber

Often they call this kind of people FRENEMY. They can be you very best friends when you face them, but when you turn away, they lie about you to other. They will go to the TOP with you, but will dumb you to the ground. They dare to gossip about their other friends to you, what makes you think they won't say anything about you to theirs? What to do: DON'T EVER TRUST this kind of people AGAIN. Not even ONCE.

2. Do Not Know How To Be Thankful

When you do something nice to them, they don't even thank you for that. They treat you as if that is your duty and you suppose to do that obviously. People who do not appreciate your sincerity and generosity and take things for granted.

3. The Life "Planner"

He/she forgot to return your call for weeks, doesn't acknowledge your special occasions, always last minutes rescheduling your plan, or even MIA..... why you should care about this kind of people when they don't even respect and care about your special time or your life. You need to and must spend your time with those who really appreciate you as a friend.

4. The Pretender

You plan and buy for him/her gifts during his/her birthday, but when it's your birthday, all you get is "oh, it's your birthday?!... Happy Birthday Darling..."

5. The Facebook Friends

You will not get anything from them other than messages or posts. Shut your computer off, and meet the real people. who knows one of them will be your future best best friends. Your true friend will stand by you when you really need them.

6. The Broke Buddy

in simple Hokkian words they called them "Chau Ka Siao", meaning those who waited for you to pay their bill and never pay you back. Remember, your money is your money, Not their ATM.

7. People Who Don't Invite You To Their Weekend Activities

Whether it is party, drinks, Bars, gathering or just a simple dinner, they never invite you and you find out how fun and enjoy they all without you by seeing their photos on your facebook newsfeed.

8. The Competitors

Whether you buy anything nice or go for nice dinner or holiday, he/she will definitely have a plan ahead and better than you.

9. The Walking Dead

Whatever you ask them, they will say "Don't Know" or "No". stay away from people who do not have any plan for their life, no goals, no motivation, no purpose, no support, and no days and nights. This Walking Dead kind of people won't kill you but they will definitely kill you motivations and your enthusiastic.

WHAT TO DO:

1. Spend your time with those who really appreciate you as a friend.

2. Seek out friends who support you and you'll be a lot happier in all aspects of life.

3. Surround yourself with ambitious plans and big goals.

4. Find friends that might have same taste of music. so you can go drink or party to the same place with them.

5. You need to find the taskmaster that lead the way, make sure everything is done, deadlines are met and goals are reached.
6. TRUST your real friend.

7. People that can lead by example is the best person in life, because they have been through it, been there and done that before. Full of knowledge.

8. Find a friend that will always give you positive constructive feedback, Not Gossip.

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True Fact about Greens

I feel this article is really good for some people understanding of how important GREEN VEGETABLE in our daily life. That's why i repost this some of the article.

Some basic understanding about our own body, Blood and Nutrition. We have 5 liters of the blood and our heart beats 100,000 times a day and pumps 2.5 ounces of blood each beat which equals about 8 tons each day. Our red blood cells deliver oxygen and remove waste. Our RBC's also transform to body cells and make up our tissue, organs, etc.

We make 2-4 million new blood cells and 13 million new body cells every second. Providing our bodies with plant foods is the most important factor in building healthy blood. Getting a concentrated GREENS product helps this process. Everything you eat or drink goes into the digestive system and ends up in the small intestines. Blood production begins within the intestines. Within the intestines exists the intestinal villas. Think of the intestinal villus as the root system to the body, just like plants with roots that absorb nutrients. The root system of plants are like the intestinal track of plants.

Blood vessels and lactiles run through the intestinal villas. The lactiles absorb fat. Fats are used in the formation of the erythroblasts as well to make cell membranes. The area space is 7,200 square feet or 1/3 of a football field.

The River of Life and Death begins in the small intestine! Intestinal Villus is like an amoeba. Digested food goes into the villus. Villus takes the digested food into its structure, assimilates and finally transforms it into an erythroblast which then become a red blood cells.

Why Do Vegetarians Always Look So Unhealthy?

Most Vegetarians do not follow an Acid/Alkaline understanding when it comes to diet. Often vegetarian diets consist of large amounts of overly cooked vegetables, processed meat substitutes and other prepackaged foods. They also consume more grains, rice, flours, simple carbohydrates, sugar, high sugar fruits, dairy products, etc. rather than living vegetables, low sugar fruits, and high energy green foods.

The truth is vegetables and low sugar fruits contain a wide array of essential minerals and nutrients. However, the depletion of minerals and nutrients in today's soil makes a concentrated greens product a necessary supplement for everyone. You can get all the nutrients you need from just your vegetables anymore.

The key ingredients of greens product should be green leafy vegetables and grasses. All green leafy vegetables and grasses are high in calcium, iron, magnesium, vitamin C, and many of the B vitamins.

People need Healthy Blood to build Healthy Muscle. Here are some percentage of calories found in vegetables that are protein.

• Spinach 49%
• Broccoli 47%
• Green Leafy Lettuce 42%
• Kale 40%
• Alfalfa Sprouts 40%
• Green Peas 30%
• Zucchini 26%
• Wheat Grass 25%
• Cucumbers 20%
• Garlic 20%
• Bell Peppers 20%
• Tomatoes 18%
• Avocado 15%
• Lemons 13%

Also when it comes to protein needs there are many factors that are overlooked. the body has a constantly changing, free amino acid pool derived from body sources as cells disorganize providing raw materials for protein complexes. this pool contributes about 70g of protein daily. The idea that you have to eat all the essential amino acids simultaneously is erroneous.

Some benefits of Greens

• a good greens product focuses on delicate, immature green plants that offer more energy and nutrients and are nutritionally different from mature grains.
• These greens are incredibly nutrient-dense and contain nutrient profiles similar to the most nutrious park green leafy vegetables
• green are nutrient-rich food and source of "good-fats"
• Green helps lower cholesterol levels and supports healthy cholesterol levels already within a normal range
• green increases absorption of carotenoids and nutrients
• Green are natural sources and powerful health-protective of phytonutrients
• Green help protect against cell damage
• Green stimulate body enzymes to detoxify carcinogens
• Green modulate the body's metabolism of hormones
• Green contain aromatic herbs that provide soothing actions and digestive benefits
• Green combat free radicals and help counter cell damage with antioxidants
• Green enhance immunity and protect cells with chlorophyll
• Green enhance vitality and provide nutrition
• Green harnesses the power of the sun
• Green provides an alkalizing formula hydrates and detoxifies the body

Repost Article, source from Timelinetothefuture. 

repost article because it is informative and useful. i do not own any copyrights.